Last week I posted this short note on LinkedIn:
"One of the [top performers’] mindsets is choosing to invest time in learning skills that will strengthen your natural talents. Capitalizing on talents and unique strengths will yield a higher ROI (you can only get better and better by capitalizing on your strengths) than trying to master a skill that might not be natural for you.
In "Now, Discover Your Strengths," the authors tell a story how Tiger Woods worked on his weakness (bunker play) just enough to make sure it was acceptable and wouldn't hurt his game. Then he would spend most of his time on perfecting his most dominant strength (his swing)."
I got a few comments about this question, and especially loved the counter question
“How about extraordinarily well-rounded?”
It made me pause and revisit this idea…
A few people have told me over the years that I’m talented in many different ways, and when I think about it objectively, I see that my eclectic set of skills might signal that I in fact possess these many talents.
Here’s a short list of skills I’ve acquired over the years:
I learned photography at age 9 and I now do it professionally
I learned to sew and knit clothes when I was a teenager and for a few years would make my own clothes, since we couldn’t afford much. I now occasionally create simple outfits for my clients for their “dream” photo shoots
My grandmother used to make these intricate flowers out of waxed fabric and crepe paper, and taught me her techniques. I use these skills now to create props for photography sets
I’m multilingual and have a Master’s degree in linguistics and translation; I worked as a translator for eight years after graduating
As a pretty tech-savvy individual, I learn software programs fairly quickly: MS Office, Adobe Creative Suite, marketing tools for social media platforms, CRM tools, etc.
I know the basics of graphic design and typography rules and can lay out marketing collateral in any graphic design program, as well as create graphic assets in Illustrator and Photoshop
I can edit videos and put short “movies” together
I studied project and product management and am pretty good at project management, but not really interested in product management
My writing skills are pretty good. My university professors would give me positive feedback on my essays
I’m naturally good at dancing. After one year of ballroom dance training about 5 years ago, I did my first dance showcase in front of a live audience (even though as a child I was terrified of being on stage and in spotlight)
My friends and coaching clients tell me that my “superpowers are incredible analysis and strong [active] listening skills”
When I myself look at this list, I think “Wow, you’ve got some impressive skills!” and in a sense it would be fair to say that I myself am “extraordinarily well-rounded.”
But am I really? Can I do all these 12 things equally well? Do they all bring me equal amounts of joy or make me lose track of time?
The truth is that only 2 out of 12 fall into the category of my “zone of genius”: people photography and editing people photos and coaching conversations and any preparation work associated with the coaching conversations.
Dancing falls into the category of a hobby: I love it, it definitely brings me joy and I try to do it often. But if I don’t do it, it doesn’t make feel that I’m missing out on life or that I am not fulfilling my life’s purpose.
The other skills on the list feel more like chores and I would gladly delegate those to someone else who’s much better and faster doing those!
Only 2 out of 12 make me want to deepen my knowledge and get even better at, so that I can provide a greater value to those I serve.
For example, since starting my new talk show ChitChat with Katya, and appearing as a guest on other people’s podcasts, I’m realizing that I need to improve my ability to formulate thoughts faster and more eloquently when I speak (it is much easier for me to do it in writing). So now rather than spending time on, say, mastering my InDesign skills, I prefer to focus attention on my public speaking skills. I feel passionately about what I do and I need to be able to share my message with the world in an eloquent and succinct way. InDesign (and the layout of the e-book I’m working on) can be delegated to someone else who will enjoy it, rather than feel drained by it.
As I was thinking about this “well-rounded” vs “extraordinary” question and my ability to acquire eclectic skills quickly, I realized that the reason I learn fast and am continuously looking for things to learn is because one of my talents (within CliftonStrengths framework) is Learner.
Learners are folks who enjoy learning for the sake of learning. They constantly crave it. I’ve talked to and coached quite a few people with Learner as their top 5 talents and they do indeed have many interests and skills.
However, if learning does not come easily to someone, it has the opposite effect: they become self-critical, because they cannot learn a seemingly “simple” skill, comparing themselves to someone who does it so easily or says that it is easy.
But perhaps they do not need to invest time on trying to learn something that doesn’t come naturally to them. Perhaps, the better, more productive and more fulfilling way to approach the acquisition of new skills is to look at what you naturally are great at already, what brings you greatest satisfaction, and develop additional skills around that.
What do you think? Are there skills that you have that bring you joy or, on the contrary, make you feel like it’s a chore?
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